“How To Build A Great Marriage”

Let me give us four building blocks for building a great marriage: There is:




A. Initial plans for marriage are critical – Get saved & marry the saved person God wants you to marry.

Ex 34:12 Take heed to thyself, lest thou make a covenant with the inhabitants of the land whither thou goest, lest it be for a snare in the midst of thee:

Ps 1:1 ¶ Blessed [is] the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful.

2Co 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

B. Involve God in your marriage daily – pray for your marriage & God’s wisdom

Ps 127:1 Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh [but] in vain.

LORD 03068 hwhy Y@hovah yeh-ho-vaw’ Jehovah = “the existing One”

Ps 121:1 I will lift up mine eyes unto the hills, from whence cometh my help.

Ps 125:1 They that trust in the LORD [shall be] as mount Zion, [which] cannot be removed, [but] abideth for ever.


C. If your are married to a lost person, never take it lightly that they are lost and thus never stop praying for your mates salvation.

1Co 7:14-16 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such [cases]: but God hath called us to peace. For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save [thy] husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save [thy] wife?


II. THE EXERCISE OF CHRISTIAN LOVE (Based upon 1 Corinthians 13:3-8)

A couple married for 15 years began having more than usual disagreements. They wanted to make their marriage work and agreed on an idea the wife had. For one month they planned to drop a slip in a “Fault” box. The boxes would provide a place to let the other know about daily irritations. The wife was diligent in her efforts and approach: “leaving the jelly top off the jar,” “wet towels on the shower floor,” “dirty socks not in hamper,” on and on until the end of the month. After dinner, at the end of the month, they exchanged boxes. The husband reflected on what he had done wrong. Then the wife opened her box and began reading. They were all the same, the message on each slip was, “I love you!”

1 John 4:7-8 Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God. He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.

Pr 10:12 Hatred stirreth up strifes: but love covereth all sins.


A. Patient I Cor 13:3a “suffereth long”

B. Kind I Cor 13:3b “is kind”


C. Embraces the truth I Cor. 13:6 “Rejoiceth not in iniquity”


D. Protects I Cor. 13:7 “beareth all things”


E. Trusts I Cor. 13:7 “believeth all things”


F. Hopes I Cor. 13:7 “hopeth all things”


G. Perseveres I Cor. 13:8 “never faileth”




A. Doesn’t envy I Cor. 13:4c “envieth not”


B. Doesn’t boast I Cor. 13:4d “vaunteth not itself”


C. Is not proud I Cor. 13:4e “is not puffed up”

Pr 13:10 Only by pride cometh contention: but with the well advised [is] wisdom.


D. Is not unbecomingly (rude) I Cor. 13:5 “doth not behave itself unseemly”


E. Is not self-seeking I Cor. 13:5 “seeketh not its own”


F. Is not easily angered I Cor. 13:5 “is not easily provoked”


G. Keeps no record of wrongs I Cor. 13:5 “thinketh no evil”




A. Unwavering Commitment (Ephesians 5:31)


B. God Consciousness (See Proverbs 2:1-7)


C. Spiritual Comprehension (Also see Ephesians chapter 6)

1Pe 5:8 ¶ Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour:

(An Article by Dr. Dennis Deese)

2 Comments on “How To Build A Great Marriage”

  1. Samu Busika // February 8, 2008 at 5:52 pm //

    Nice husband full of love which is above all. i think if the wife noticed that he was full of love she would be able to accept all the complains she had, otherwise, he is really a loving husband.

  2. sweetiegirlz // January 30, 2008 at 11:25 am //

    Re: the excercise of Christian love. What a sweet example on the part of the husband.

    I shall have my ears and eyes open.

    Thank you for your valuable blog.

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